psychology

Anticipation Sickness.

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This combination of hope and anxiety can be crippling. And that’s anticipation sickness. Knowing the risk you take to hope at all, knowing what losing hope will feel like, how our way of seeing the world will be again challenged. It’s the fear and anxiety that overshadows joy. Hope is not a joyful feeling – hope is the gut-wrenching, white-knuckled sigh of the heartbroken, brave and vulnerable to look up, to say ‘Okay, let’s go again.’

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I Was A Dancer, Once.

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By now, you should know this is both a true story about dance and a metaphor. I am a paradox of confidence and innocence, sometimes imagining more quickly than I can learn and sometimes learning more than I can practice. But there are a few things I know to be true.

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How To Write An Ending.

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So you have but one choice when writing an ending. What will you do tomorrow when your work is done? What will you do tomorrow when you are let go from your job or your lover leaves you or you are simply bored with what you have. Whenever you reach an impasse or an end, you simply have permission to say ‘and then’. Begin a new chapter, a new story.

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I Am The Jealous Type.

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I can hardly breathe when she’s in the room. I’m overwhelmed with a sense of envy and admiration for this woman. She is phenomenal. She is loved – loved so hard, and by so many. I’m envious of how I imagine she is loved. Most importantly, she has earned the goodwill of those whom I admire where I have not. I am average beside her. I know the truth of my failings. I know the difference between my aspirations and my reality.

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No Such Thing As A Broken Man (Or Woman).

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We relinquish our creative power, becoming obsessed with doing what is right. In our desire to be perfect we neglect our greatest purpose in the Universe. There is no hero in fairytale or real life that does not bear some shadow or flaw. We are unconvincing humans without them. Whatever good you can and will accomplish in your life, will occur in the company of your demons too. Your greatest task is to be your true self.

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Embracing Our Sensuality Early.

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Why has sex become so reductionist? Because I think we’ve lost the art of learning when it comes to our sexuality and I also think we’ve lost a connection with the senses that fuel our sensuality and imagination. It’s hard to have one without the other. It’s crucial to develop our sexual tastes and understanding of how we work in this same learning process and to encourage young people and young adults to understand their sexuality in healthy ways. I believe we can do this through embracing and engaging with the broader art of sensuality.

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