by tashmcgill | May 29, 2014 | Culture & Ideas, Leadership, Strategy
If you want to be an effective leader, in business, your profession, the creative arts, social service, community, school… wherever you want to lead – a great place to start your journey is with understanding influence.
Understand who you are already influencing. Look for who else you’d like to influence and start to understand what you might need to do to position yourself to influence those people.
But understand this – influence is not something that gets handed to you with position.
Sometimes it doesn’t matter who is at the head of an organization if they are not the person with the most influence. Remember how the kid at the top of the class wasn’t necessarily the person who determined whether or not you made into the cool group?
Remember in university, when the most popular lecturers didn’t necessarily have the flashest office or the longest, most impressive title.
Influence is about calibre and character. Influence is people who choose to listen to what you have to say. Influence is the number of people who respond to what you think, say, act and implement in your life and leadership practice. Every time you connect and engage – you build trust, which is a greenhouse for influence in relationships.
First, be aware of who you are influencing, what your message is and how you can influence change for the better. This isn’t about getting your way but about facilitating the right conversations and opportunities for other.
If there was one thing I want you to understand about leadership and influence; it’s that influencing those above you and beside you is far more powerful and rewarding than influencing those below you in the hierarchy. There’s a flow-on effect too. Seek to bring as many people beside you as you can, multiplying influence.
That means bringing people together to create opportunities in business, opportunities for social change, opportunities for relationship. The best matchmakers in history are people who influence the opinions and actions of others.
These posts were originally broadcast in a radio series, in 2009. If you are interested in talking more about leadership or you’d like me to speak with your team about maximizing their leadership skills – just get in touch.
by tashmcgill | May 28, 2014 | Community, Culture & Ideas, Strategy
“You’ll get what you give.”
“You’ll get back out what you put in.”
“You’ll reap what you sow.”
There are lots of ways that we imply that action or investment should generate a return or reward. That philosophy underpins lots of daily interactions and decisions we make.
It’s not just about how much effort we invest in something, but also how much effort we invest in people and relationships. We reassess our commitment and friendships when we feel like we’re giving it more than the other person. We determine the priority of tasks in our work days based on how much it matters – or, what’s the consequence (lack of return or reward) if I don’t get it done.
Mostly, society has accepted this principle at large as a pretty good way of being. Society isn’t often wrong, right? Except, well – except in a bunch of cases.
Like charity, or when we try to describe what it takes to be a hero. (more…)
by tashmcgill | May 27, 2014 | Culture & Ideas
Sometime last week, I heard a dollar coin hit the hardwood floor. Later I stood on it so picked it up and put it on the dresser. Then I swept up a pile of junk mail and threw it away. I heard that dollar clink into the trash can.
I thought to myself.. “Oh, it’s just a dollar, not such a big deal.”
Was that dollar worth getting into the bin? The value of a dollar changes depending on how many you have right, and I can earn one pretty quickly.
But it’s nagging at me that money could be becomes valuable only when you have enough of it to do something significant. Too little and it doesn’t matter? It’s a little selfish, right?
Generosity uses different language though. It redeems this idea of “more and enough” by making it communal. Giving of ourselves, sharing what we have makes many things/experiences worth more than face value.
When we share the Lent experience (or any experience of common sacrifice) it increases in value. And it’s not the scale of what we choose to sacrifice that matters – there’s no need for more or enough, because a little goes a long way.
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by tashmcgill | May 14, 2014 | Culture & Ideas, Strategy
Recently I’ve been writing about provocateurs – those who push boundaries, ask challenging questions and provoke people into change. We who would be provocateurs we must take up a new responsibility, if we wish to be more than hot air and false promises. We must be people of the Both/And instead of the Either/Or. We cannot provoke without problem-solving.
There are too many (of us) provocateurs who have got tired of the push, the argument, the uncomfortable feeling of always being ‘that person’ in the meeting. We have become frustrated, disenchanted and slowly edged further away from the core we long to engage with and influence.
Yes, I believe that provocateurs belong at the Fringe, where we are afforded the best view of both crowd and horizon. But we cannot wholly live at the edge of things; lobbing our opinion and commentary into the centre, if we lose the reality of being in community while trying to shaping it. (more…)
by tashmcgill | Apr 29, 2014 | Culture & Ideas, Prose & Poetry
I Need Some Strong Arms
Some strong arms and present hands. I’m wanting to be comforted within proximity, in that special human song called Presence. All thoughts and thinking aside.. the cacophony inside my head longs for the silence of skin engaged with skin, pulses meeting underneath soft cocoons of nerves. Reminding me (and us) of the belonging and healing that comes within arms and hands and bodies. (more…)
